You cook??

That was a question popped out from my (lady) boss mouth, and my answer was ‘Yes’. Which she said “That is insane. What time do you normally awake to prepare breakfast?” . “uh I dunno 4.00 a.m. or 5.00 a.m. depends” I replied.  “No wonder you are tired” she commented and recommended few ‘solution’ to my so-called ‘problem’.

It’s my choice to cook. Frankly, I don’t really fancy cooking. Unlike my mom, she was a kitchen goddess.  She would just threw things in a pot or pans and viola! a delicious meal was produced. Me? If there is an option, I will opt for other house work i.e., cleaning, sweeping, dusting, etc.

Let’s cookin’

However, ever since my position was upgraded as a ‘mother’, I prefer to cook instead of dining out. Why?

1. One of the methods to produce an obedient, humble and quality future leader

There is no scientific evidence of the above statement. My mom, and I also heard old folks used to say that whenever a mom cook, the juice from a mom’s hand or in malay term ‘air tangan’ can shape a children to be obedient. It’s probably true. I remembered when I was small, I never raised my voice to my parents or disobey their orders.

Smart mommies should use this opportunities to dzikir while cooking. I’ve attended a motivational talk where a motivator shared with the audience about the effect of words and food. He also performed a simple experiment. It’s hard to describe the experiment but in summary, the negative wave of nasty words transferred to a food will produce a negative thoughts, emotion, value to those who consume the food, and vice versa.

2. Health & Safety Reason

Health is wealth. Meal that prepared at home will be secured from any elements that may be harmed your family’s health. On contrary, restaurant or food stall operators may ignore this aspect; the might not clean the raw material properly as for them what they value is volume of customer so they need to do things fast.

3. Cost saving

Dining out may definitely will create a hole (if not burnt) in your pocket.

“But I don’t know how to cook :(“. Learn my dear, learn. Google and YouTube is always there to help us.

Remember Rome was not build in a day, and start small…with a simple dish.

Good Luck to me and you.

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Challenges of a Working Mommies

The above topic is not new. Google it and a numerous list of this similar topic will pop out on the screen. Not all working mom survive the challenges in satisfying the demands from office and home. Often; at least in Malaysia, mommies has to choose either one; career or family. I’m not sure about the statistic but those who opt for career will have to face the consequences of difficult ambiance in her family whereas those who opt to focus more on her family may encounter career related issues.

Quitting may not help to build our nation too as the talented brains were not capitalized.

In order to overcome this issue, most Malaysian mommies hire a helper/ maid to run things at home while they are away. This action may reduce the ‘juggling’ issue encountered by mommies but sometimes new problem arises for example; maid running away, maid abuse the kids, etc.

I believe one of the solutions of this ‘situation’ is to establish a mommy-friendly policies in a company/ organization. Indeed the Labour Law says that an employee need to spend a minimum of 8 hrs a day in a office but I’m pretty sure we can have a room for ‘negotiation’. In short the following are two suggestions to be considered as an input in developing the mommy-friendly policies:

1. Allow mommies to work from home for certain numbers of days in a week.

Most of the advance countries i.e. America, United Kingdom, Australia, etc has implemented this for ages and there is no record indicated this move contributed to a decrease in staff’s level of productivity.

This move will certainly helps mommies to focus on their tasks as they are secure that their love ones are growing up in front of them. Meanwhile the kids will get a full attention and love from their own mother which in return will help in shaping and nurture the kids to be a better person.

In addition work from home will help the mommies to save their earnings from commuting.

2. Allow mommies to leave early from office.

Another option is to allow mommies to leave early from office. This can be implemented with a simple and reasonable terms & condition; for example should a female staff wishes to leave early from a workplace, she can do so in a condition that her pay will be reduced by xxx amount.

On contrary, any female staff who are into chasing a career ladder are welcome to stay in the office until the cat grows a horn.

By implementing this, I bet both organisation and employee will reach a win-win situation. Staff will be happy and produce good and quality deliverable which in return helps an organisation to boost the company performance.

Well..think about it. You never know until you try..

Till later.

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Under Pressure

Last Monday I was really under pressure. I broke down at my cubicle. I cried and tears running like a waterfall. It all happens when I received an email from my boss. Frankly I don’t mind being monitored ..it puts me on a correct track but, it really pissed me off when the email spelled the detailed inch-by inch of activities that I need to do execute and update her. I mean, am not a kid for crying out loud; who need micro monitoring. I’ve been working for more than 10 years. So I know what should I do. Plus, am a right brained thus detailed monitoring really puts me off.

Someone asked me to confront my boss which I refuse as I’m worry something bad will go out from my mouth. My other friend suggested me to dzikir with a prayer that recited by Nabi Yunus.

Dzikir Nabi Yunus

So, I did. I dzikir with hope, with khusyu’ while my eyes was still in tears. Alhamdulillah.. not long after that I feel peace and serene. I manage to ignore the ‘nuisance’ and slowly bit-by-bit I regained my focus and replied my boss’s email in 3 parts (due to the lengthy explanation).

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Clash of personality; Right vs Left Brained

I’m a right brained person. Yup and I’m proud with that fact. This means I’m a creative and appreciate  big picture. Details, numbers and other things associate with this two suffocate me. I have issue in dealing with mechanical and nitty gritty things. I called this things as ‘maggot’. I always amaze with these  people, i.e. computer programmer or engineer or analyst or cake decorator who can seat for hours doing details thing. I admire their energy level and how they endure their day. Perhaps they love what they are doing.

On contrary, visual excites me more than figures. I’m more comfortable to express my thoughts, feeling, emotions or whatsoever via visual; be it graph or mind mapping or sketches.

OK, what happens when right and left brained work together in one department? If the left brained is a superior and the right brained is a subordinates, the staff will feel suffocated with the boss who is micro managing and ‘breathing on the staff’s neck’. The left brained superior might thinks their right brained staff are slow.

On the other hand, if the superior is right brained and the staff is left brained. The staff will appreciate superior’s big picture as they know the way forward, etc but they are ensure what are the details

Image

activities that need to be executed to realise the big picture.

Left vs Right Brained

However this small ‘hump’ can be reduced if not eliminated if everybody appreciate each other plus and minus side. Left and right brained can complement each other if the tasks are properly assigned

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Books

Thanks to my kids and husband who conquer television and computer, I am now rekindle myself with my old interest; reading. I found peace in reading..it’s like an escapism. Me myself in my own world; imaginative world away from hustling and bustling scream of household and/ or office demand.

My favorite books are Shopaholic Series written by Sophie Kinsella. It’s a chic lit novel that tells a story of a girl who likes to splurge her money on things that some of them are not really her necessities but she always has a creative reason/ justification to spend. Yup, she does encounters a trouble but she somehow manage to overcome them.

Books that made me laugh,smile and grin a lot

I love the way Sophie Kinsella writes cause she doesn’t use complicated English. The story line was simple and easy to follow.

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Hello world!

Hello world!

Welcome to my blog! I don’t know why but suddenly I have this urge to have a blog. My life is not that interesting to made known to everybody anyway, but this will serve as a platform for me to vent out my thoughts, view, emotions, etc.

I am a mother of 3 and my husband is far far far away from me as he works in the east coast whereas me in KL. My eldest is at boarding school. My father; who is disable is staying with me since my mom passed away 3 months ago. To help me to run things at home, I hire an ADO (Assistant Domestic Officer). My life is pretty hectic as I’m a working mom and try to juggle between home, office and self needs.

I’m not sure if there is someone out there who reads or follow my blog update. But if you do, thank you very much for your visit and please leave a comment.

Regards,

Adna Adnan

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